Life of Meaning

I Could Be Wrong

July 11, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Nobody is more dangerous than he who imagines himself pure in heart; for his purity, by definition, is unassailable.” James Baldwin

It all began nearly thirty years ago.

New to the forward thinking of the Episcopalians, I found myself in disagreement with one particular point in a sermon given by the Bishop of the LA Diocese. So, following my inquisitive proclivities I approached Bishop Fred Borsch afterwards during “coffee hour.” It was then I most respectfully questioned the biblical accuracy of his position.

Bishop Borsch thoughtfully considered my question before he responded, “You know, Charlie,” (I had introduced myself to him), “together we believe in the truths of the Scripture and that the words in the text are certainly not “wrong.” Although together you and I believe that Scripture is not wrong, we as errant human beings might be wrong in our interpretations.”

That brief encounter with the Bishop changed my thinking forever. I Could Be Wrong! No matter how sure I may be of any given “truth” I could be proven wrong when confronted with new information. That was when I chose to begin holding my “beliefs” in a bit of suspension, always prepared to be open to new ideas.

James Baldwin was right on target when he assailed the notion of self-righteousness by calling those with such beliefs as dangerous. Certainly, those with unassailable beliefs can be unapproachable. Ergo, “never talk about religion or politics” in a friendly gathering.

In times like we face today, I can think of no better words to live by than “I could be wrong.” My personal beliefs are always assailable and I wish to be open to other ideas.

Now, for me, I still hold certain beliefs very close to my heart and I have a hard time imagining someone changing my mind. But… you never know… I could be wrong.

When In Doubt

Count Yourself as Blessed

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Self Reflection in Pandemonium

July 5, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

“Montaigne left the world to follow its own chaotic crazed paths in an effort to only concern himself with one thing: to be rational within himself, to remain human in an inhuman time, to remain free in the vortex of pandemonium.Stephen Zweig on Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592)

Sometimes the disorder of social pandemonium requires a respite or retreat in order to gather one’s thoughts. It is so easy to get caught up in the tyranny of the loudest voices, resulting in a chaotic world, both personal and social.
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When Duty is a Joy

June 20, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“I slept and dreamt / that life was a joy. / I awoke and saw that life was a duty. / I worked—and behold, / duty was a joy.
Rabindranath Tagore

In my final, for now, essay on Viktor’s Frankl’s Yes to Life I find myself experiencing a twist regarding my search for meaning in life.

When Duty is An Option

Frankl offers two fresh options for our seeming eternal quest for some kind of meaning of this delightful and troublesome existence we call “life.” Answers to these question are comprised of both individual and socially responsibilities. Frankl suggests two ideas to ponder:
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Rethinking Dignity

June 13, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

… a human being should never become a means to an end.” Viktor Frankl, Yes to Life

All great literature is defined by a handful of common features, one of them being timeless relevance. Viktor Frankl’s lectures in 1946 are indeed timelessly relevant. Written in the post-barbaric times of Nazi Germany, Frankl experienced the very worst of human nature.
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Before It’s Too Late

May 23, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“What are the small ways in which you can contribute to peace on earth? What monumental prayer can you pray to alleviate suffering in this world, one human being, one grey wolf, one old-growth redwood tree at a time?” Mirabai Starr

In her song Wake Up, Alicia Keys hums, “When we gonna wake up… before it’s too late?”

Haunted by a Daunting Reality

I was listening to Alicia while pondering this post and found her words touching a haunting spot in my soul. Although written with romantic love in mind, her message nevertheless reflects an altogether daunting reality. As a people with influence, we need to wake up before it’s too late… for so many reasons.
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Making Space… In My Mind

May 9, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

We want to fill up what is empty. Our lives stay very full. And when we are not blinded by busyness, we fill our inner space with guilt about things of the past or worries about things to come. Henri Nouwen

Space. A vast frontier. No, not Star Wars. More like room to wander about, in the cosmic expanses… in my mind. And yes, these wanderings are best discovered in silence, sans distractions and disruptions—the norm of normal times.

So as we begin the emergence or resurrection back to some kind of normal, I wonder: will I still create time for making space—that room to ponder and delight in the magical mystery tour… in my mind?

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The operative words in this little litany of thought are “in my mind.” Yesterday, for example, I toured the regions of my youth—literally. I left the house, drove thirty miles to Pico Rivera and Whittier, where I was raised until about 20.
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On Patience—Ugh… Or Not?

May 3, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting. Joyce Meyer

About a week ago my friend Terry told me a quote he read: “Hell hath no fury like that of an inconvenienced American!” Ouch.

Living in quarantine is unprecedented in any of our lifetimes. Talk about inconvenience—and a costly one at that, costly in lives, finances and personal freedoms.
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On Journaling: Discover Your Secret Self

April 18, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“There are a thousand thoughts lying within a man that he does not know till he takes up a pen to write.” William Makepeace Thackeray, (b 1811, d 1863, author of Vanity Fair)


Just last week in a chat with Maggie, my new daughter-in-law, she and I discussed the pleasure and insight to be discovered in the practice of a daily journal. New to the habit, Maggie shared with me the startling discoveries rooted in her deepest self, and yet unrecognized until she began to put them to words.
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Kindness: An Antidote to Troubles in Quarantine

April 11, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things…” Naomi Shihab Nye

These days of quarantine remind us of our need for human connection and kindness. I believe that kindness (and acceptance without judgment) reconnects us with our innate humanity and our need for meaningful human connection.
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