#261 Pat Wetzel: Stumbled Into Soaring

December 6, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

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Our guest today, Pat Wetzel, is an award-winning author, blogger, and photographer. Pretty “artsy” stuff, right. Well, Pat also holds a degree from the Wharton Business School in finance and worked in New York doing strategic planning and corporate investment analysis, among many other business services.

More recently, she has been involved with a number of startups, including her current one, CancerRoadTrip. In 2009 Pat was diagnosed with incurable cancer. And then after several years of chemo, radiation, and surgery Pat now enjoys a life in remission.

Pat is also a fellow podcaster, with her award-winning show “Bump in the Road,” something we all have experienced.

Pat Wetzel is very intentional about the way she lives her life. With intellect, humor, and incredible stories Pat is with us today to share her journey into how she “Stumbled Into Soaring.”

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Windows to Your Soul

December 3, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

By trying to handle all suffering through willpower, denial, medication, or even therapy, we have forgotten something that should be so obvious: We do not handle suffering: suffering handles us.Richard Rohr

The deepest and most impactful learnings in life come neither from books nor gurus.

I have discovered that, every now and then, I sense very clear view of my most hidden, secret, sometimes painful, and sometimes embarrassing self. I call these times Windows to the Soul. (more…)

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3 Simple Questions for a Good Life

November 27, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

At the end of our life we all ask, “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?Brendon Burchard

Do you find the plethora of “life’s axioms” or suggestions for “living a life that matters” becoming just a bit tiring? For me, there comes a point where the last thing I want is advice.

Executive Coach or Partner in Thought

For the last a couple decades I have found my coaching process has become more one of making suggestions for consideration, than a litany of advice regarding next steps. I guess that is one reason I changed my title from Executive Coach to Partner in Thought.

Perhaps that is also why I am so fond of Brendon Burchard’s three questions: Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter? His questions are so simple yet so powerful they really don’t require a lot of writing. But they do demand consideration. (more…)

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#260 Terry Hershey: What Makes You Come Alive?

November 22, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

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In his latest weekly blog found in Sabbath Moment, Terry Hershey explores the words of theologian/philosopher Howard Thurman by delving into Thurman’s question, “What makes you come alive?”

Thurman’s actual words are, “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

I liked the topic so much I invited Terry on the show to discuss it. So. The question is: What makes YOU come alive? Several things make us feel alive, but rarely do we address the question itself.

Today, Terry and I will ponder together what that question means for us personally.

Now, if you’re a frequent listener of the show then you’re already familiar with Terry Hershey, who is a regular guest. If you don’t know him, Terry is a prolific writer, conference keynote speaker, renowned landscape architect, and spiritual advisor.

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Click here for a link to get a copy Terry’s latest book, Stand Still.

Check out more about Terry on his website at www.terryhershey.com

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The Spirituality of Letting Go

November 19, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 4 Comments

Spirituality is always about letting go.” Richard Rohr

As I have written several times in the past few years, my personal spirituality is now based on lessons I have learned from the mystics like Teresa of Avila, Julian of Norwich, and John of the Cross. And very prominently by contemporary teacher, Richard Rohr.

First Things

It is from these teachers I have discovered that deep spirituality begins with me and my willingness to explore my own predilections, biases, and beliefs. In doing so, I inevitably encounter my own idols—things I choose to hold on to very dearly.

Idolatry, it seems to me, is the primary issue of concern in the Old Testament. God’s people look to a myriad of “things” to worship instead of God—the worship of false idols is of special interest in the mind of God. But what exactly are false idols? Especially, what are the false idols today? And even more important, what are My idols?

False Idols

In the OT false idols were actual idols representing other gods. For us, however, “other gods” are most often the things we have come to adore and follow. In my mind, human nature is built to worship. For that reason, idolatry runs its wicked course through all we do and love in life—sports teams, musicians, political leaders, “successful” people… the list is never-ending and is most certainly particular to each individual.

With that in mind, Richard Rohr prompts us to “let go.” “Spirituality is always about letting go.” That is, letting go of the ties that bind us. And those “ties” are usually the idols we have come to worship.

The Idol of Me

It is at this point the message of the mystics always leads to personal reflection and the uncomfortable realization that the idol I must eventually wrestle with is the “Idol of Me.” This tedious obsession with myself can easily be recognized by my overpowering hunger for power, prestige, and possessions.

And so Richard, with the influence of the community of mystics, guides us to turn to our own individualized idol of the “self.” The Letting Go begins with letting go of our own egoic needs for attention and acquisitions. These egoic needs are always the first and primary roadblock to spirituality.

When Letting Go Becomes Personal

I think it is at this point that the mystics go “from preaching to meddling.” It is at this point the message becomes far too personal. In a world that preaches the problem is typically found “out there” somewhere, the likes of Richard Rohr stir our hearts to look deeply into our own core of needs and beliefs.

My true spirituality can only rise after I come to the place where I can begin to let go… of Me.

Letting Go

Begins with Letting Go of Me

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#259 Ann Sidney: Surviving Miss World

November 15, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

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We have a most interesting and insightful show today. Our uniquely special guest is Ann Sidney, Miss World 1964. Her new book, ‘Surviving Miss World’ is a searingly honest account of how winning the 1964 Miss World Beauty Pageant radically altered the scope of her life.

Born to a working-class family in England, at barely 20, Ann Sidney’s overnight fame reveals a life during the ‘swinging sixties’ few of us could ever dream of. Her win led Bob Hope to invite Ann to join his USO tour, entertaining ‘our troops’ by traveling to Korea, Guam, the Philippines, and Vietnam (during the war).

In our time together today Ann Sidney and I will discuss the impact of winning Miss World in a time when winning a Worldwide Beauty Pageant was a very, very big deal. In addition to life in the 60’s, we will discuss gender roles in that time period compared to what we believe today. Our conversation is fun and enlightening.

With that, let’s bring Ann on the show.

LINKS

Check out Ann’s latest book, Surviving Miss World

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From The Archive: The Fall of Your Life

November 13, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

It is only the farmer who faithfully plants seeds in the Spring, who reaps a harvest in the Fall. B. C. Forbes

Although it may seem counterintuitive but you need a Fall in your life. Although I do believe times of despair and falling are indeed essential, that is not the topic today. Today I am arguing for the reintroduction of the season of Fall in your life. (more…)

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#258 Roger Smith: From Rock Bottom to Rock Star CEO

November 10, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

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We all love the stories of gritty and tenacious people that go “from breadlines to headlines.” That is the story of our special guest today, Roger Smith.

From ages 15 to 35, in the world of work, Roger was a very high functioning drug addict. However, eventually he discovered that although “The Wolf of Wall Street” lifestyle was good for a while, it inevitably became unsustainable, and he found himself at rock bottom thinking about taking his life.

Today, Roger Smith has become for many of us that “light at the end of the tunnel.” There is hope for the lost, the self-destructive, the addict, and the homeless. Roger’s life demonstrates what a person can do with a vision, compiled productivity, and an unwavering commitment to caring about the people he works with and the ones that work for him.

As it turns out, Roger and I have many things in common and I can’t wait to chat for a while about how he went from Rock Bottom to Rock Star CEO.

With that, let’s bring Roger on the show.

LINKS

Check out Roger’s latest book The Most Unlikely Leader

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The Hidden Influence of Biases

November 6, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

There is no such thing as a bias-free or value-free position, we need to be aware of that bias, in ourselves and in others.” Richard Rohr

Let’s admit it: There is no such thing as an unbiased point of view.

Our personal histories contribute to our strongly held beliefs and “positions” on controversial topics. And the most troubling thing is that many of our biases are hidden and/or unknown even to ourselves.

Bias and Cultural Assumptions

Our biases can also be understood as our cultural “assumptions.” While we “assume” certain things to be true, we often don’t realize that those assumptions have been burrowed deep within our psyche based on our personal history and the culture in which we were raised.

For instance, I just recently I read of the American/Western “philosophy of progress.” I have never even thought of the concept of a “philosophy of progress” and yet that concept is absolutely true… but only for those raised in a society in which meritocracy is the norm. In America, most people would agree that you get what you earn; or that “progress” is a natural truth of the common human condition.

But I ask you to consider the cultural beliefs of those not raised in a wealthy/comfortable society like America or even the West in general. Right now I am thinking of Uganda. For the past five years I have traveled to Uganda 2-3 time each year. Much of my time is spent in very rural communities where people live at the edge of extreme poverty, earning less than three dollars per day.

The goal in this society is not about progress. In fact, progress is an almost unknown value. The driving value is survival, not success.

Bias Toward Success or Survival

Just this one single value (or bias) predetermines out entire approach to life: success or survival. These “filters” form the basis of our actions and beliefs on a daily basis. Yes, it is helpful to understand the core beliefs of other cultures in order to better understand your own biases.

So, what do we do: we read; we discuss; we contemplate; we travel. Learning is key to self-understanding and self-understanding contributes to our self-knowledge and therefore our ability to make even better decisions about what we believe.

Understand Your Biases

To Gain Clarity and Understanding

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#257 Hilary DeCesare: Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart

November 1, 2022 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

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INTERESTING NOTE:

Be sure to check out the very end of the show. Our editor left in the “after-show conversation” with Charlie, Hilary, and Producer Paul. I thought about removing it, but the very brief conversation is fun.

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In the 1990’s I wrote a book subtitled “Reinventing the Life You Want.” As it turns out the book might have been just a bit ahead of its time. It seems that people were not that interested in “reinventing themselves” when the book came out.

Well today is different. My special guest, Hilary DeCesare, has a new book titled “ReLaunch: Spark Your Heart to Ignite Your Life.” And Hilary’s ideas about how to ReLaunch Your Life are brilliant. She offers unique, and hugely effective, methods specifically crafted to ignite solutions for your success in today’s challenging environment.

After a decade of working at Oracle Corporation, Hilary DeCesare began consulting with C Suite executives on how to relaunch their life and business and relationships in order to better reach goals and align with future possibilities.

LINKS

Click here for more on Hilary DeCesare and Relaunch.

Click here to review Hilary’s book: ReLaunch: Spark Your Heart to Ignite Your Life.

 

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