A man’s friendships are one of the best measures of his worth. Charles Darwin
Few things reveal more about you than what you value or the “worth” you place on time, goods, and relationships. For example, some people spend time to buy money, as others will spend money to buy time. Still others worry less about money and the time required to attain it than they do on nurturing their replenishing relationships.
I have been surprised by the number of deathbed recollections that almost invariably focus on the value of their most significant relationships. Charles Darwin, according to the quote above, obviously felt the same, but I am not so sure I agree in total.
For me, other matters are worthy as well. As I grow older the concept of Legacy becomes important to me—what will I leave that is valuable for others to remember and perhaps even copy? For decades I have pondered the notion of what it means to live a life worth living. Three hungers seem to represent my greatest desires: curiosity, creating, and caring.
I love to learn and experience new ideas and places. I am titillated when I come up with creative solutions or works of art. And finally, serving the needs of others fills me with a deep sense of purpose. But I also love the toys money can buy: cars, clothes, houses, and travel. But I find I can still live a rich life without all the toys. They are fun, but certainly not indispensable.
So what is indispensable? Maybe Darwin is right. Even though I am a bit of a loner, I still desperately need the people I love. My list of people is short although nonetheless vital.
And you? What is worthy in your life?
I believe it is “worth” your time to write down what is most important to you and the efforts required to attain and maintain those values.
And then, on your deathbed, hope like hell you made the best choices.
What’s It Worth?
Only You Can Decide
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