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How Old Are You in Conflict?

April 14, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 1 Comments

“Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.”    Shannon L. Alder

I was chatting the other day with my friend, Dena Crowder. We were talking about the causes of “conflict” when she told me a most enlightening quote by a therapist friend: “It’s not about what you feel in conflict; it’s more about when you feel in conflict.”

This is not “the sound of one hand clapping” Zen talk. This is about real life everyday stuff.
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It IS All About You

March 31, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Be broken to be whole… Have little and gain much… Have much and get confused.” Lao Tzu

 “So wise souls are good at caring for people, never turning their back on anyone.” Lao Tzu

Okay. I can already hear your thoughts: What do,” being broken,” and “caring for people” have ANYTHING to do with “It’s all about Me?”
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The Value of Real Intelligence Over The Artificial Kind

March 24, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Our job now, isn’t to do our job. It’s to find new tasks…” Seth Godin

What you call work today will probably be outdated by 2025. The days of the 9 to 5, show up at the office, do your job, depend on long-term employment and company sponsored retirement plans are most likely going away.

The Radically Changing Workplace

The concept of “jobs” is about to be redefined. Instead of jobs, companies will hire workers to do projects or work on teams in need of their expertise and work ethic. You will work at a company for one to two years (at most) managing your “project work” until it is complete. When you will have fulfilled your contract, you will be in search of a new project either at the same company or a new company. Working remotely will be much more commonplace as well.

You will be hired for your specific skill for a specific assignment. It will be a grand time for the creative, opportunistic worker that is interested in learning, performing, and doing good for the world.

I know this sounds like heaven to the Millennial and hell to the Baby Boomer. But reality is reality. For more on this subject please check out my podcast with my fabulous Talent Search expert Sherry Benjamins as we go into detail on the topic of “Work Reimagined.”

The HEART of the Matter

As well, the rising concern over the threat of robots and Artificial Intelligence only increases as we near the mid 2020’s. The fear is that robots will replace humans in the workplace leaving so many people without jobs. But I’m not convinced that is true. I don’t believe Artificial Intelligence can replace the value-add creativity that humans bring to the workplace.

In fact, I think just the opposite. New and exciting work for people will emerge. Note the remainder of the quote above by marketing and business genius/guru Seth Godin:

“Our job now, isn’t to do our job. It’s to find new tasks, human tasks, faster than the computer takes the old ones away. Too often, people are displaced and then give up. We can still add value, but we need to do it differently, more bravely, and with ever more insight.”


I am most attracted by Seth’s words that humans can do new jobs “differently, more bravely, and with ever more insight.” Humans bring unique skills and talents that computers cannot. Humans will always bring original beauty and art to the planet. Humans bring problem solving insights that value life and the people of life. Humans bring a sense of purpose and meaning that I believe is only human and is yet to be tapped deeply.

You bring extraordinary value because you have a body, an unexplored brain, and a mysteriously resonant soul. Computers will not have soul—that deeply human capacity to love and care, AND do something about it.

Do I fear robots and Artificial Intelligence? Hell no. In fact, I look forward to mechanical entities to do the BS tasks that I don’t want to do, giving me time to be “fully human,” enjoying life and creatively making my world a better place.

Robots are my toys and tools, not my rulers.

Women and Men are Irreplaceable

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How I Attack Anxiety

February 24, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Nothing can stop me now cause I just don’t care anymore.” Trent Reznor, Piggy

I can’t tell you what Trent Reznor had in mind when he wrote this line from Piggy but I can tell you what it means for me. It has to do with how you define the words “don’t care anymore.” For me, in this context “don’t care” does not mean “of little importance,” rather it is an indicator of how I feel about myself. I care about family, friends, beliefs and ideas. But none of these stop me from doing anything or prevent me from being the kind of person I intend to be.
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Try a Little Tenderness

February 18, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

The most important freedom is freedom from your own self-judgment. Virginia Tugaleva

How many times have you heard someone claim, “I would never say the things to others that I say to myself”? How many times have you said that very same thing to yourself?
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Who Are You, Really?

February 10, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. 
Carl Jung

Just Thinking…

How come some of the people I really like today are the very same ones I often intensely disliked when I first met them?

I find it rather comical. If I don’t like you on first impression it is most likely because there is something about you that reminds me of me—generally a part of me that I am not particularly fond of. But after I spend more time with you I discover the similarities and then the next thing I know we are the best of friends.

At the same time this principle provides a unique opportunity for personal growth and wisdom. Instead of bemoaning the reasons why you may dislike another person you may consider that, instead, they function like an undesirable mirror. I like the little quip by author Chuck Palahniuk:

“The difference between how you look and how you see yourself is enough to kill most people. And maybe the reason vampires don’t die is because they can never see themselves in photographs or mirrors.” Haunted

Since the option of becoming a vampire is unlikely, you are stuck with you. I can’t imagine a better person to be stuck with, especially if you are a personal growth and wisdom seeker. Mahatma Gandhi reckoned:

“It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good heart whatever they might have to say.” 

So, if you want to discover things about yourself that you might want to work on, just evaluate the things in other people you don’t like.

When I Don’t Like You

Is It Because I Really Don’t Like Me?

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Happiness and That Unruly Need

January 20, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

The pursuit of happiness is perhaps one of our easiest and, at the same time, most confusing endeavors. The irony of happiness is that it doesn’t necessarily come with novelty and excitement or popularity. Rather it is more often discovered in our everyday lives of family, colleagues, friends and other members of social groups.
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The Power of Powerlessness

January 14, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

I am altogether prepared to admit my powerlessness over all aspects of my life.

Truth: I am altogether prepared to admit my powerlessness over all aspects of my life, especially the ones for which I have little or no skill. But there is a solution. It is a 12 Step mantra that we are powerless over our lives and that we must depend on a higher power. Now, that Higher Power may be God or the divine or the universe or your muse. For me, most likely it is “the divinity resident in all that is seen and unseen.”
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