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From the Archives: Longing for Permanence in a Constantly Changing World

August 11, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Millions long for immortality who don’t know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.” Susan Ertz

Which is it we long for, permanence or stability? Does it matter? Both are circumvented by a “constantly changing world.” Henry Miller once wrote, “… it needs to be stressed continually: all is creation, all is change, all is flux, all is metamorphosis.” 
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What’s It Worth?

July 14, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

A man’s friendships are one of the best measures of his worth. Charles Darwin

Few things reveal more about you than what you value or the “worth” you place on time, goods, and relationships. For example, some people spend time to buy money, as others will spend money to buy time. Still others worry less about money and the time required to attain it than they do on nurturing their replenishing relationships.
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Distance Yourself from Drama

June 30, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

Don’t waste time on what’s not important. Don’t get sucked into the drama. Get on with it: don’t dwell on the past. Be a big person; be generous of spirit; be the person you’d admire. Allegra Huston

Drama! Such an uninviting and irritating way to live. And yet we often find ourselves caught up in drama for a significant portion of our lives. It seems we are forced into it everywhere we turn: work, home, and significant as well as insignificant relationships easily provide grist for ongoing conflict.
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Your Actions Really Matter

June 23, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

“You’re going to pay a price for every bloody thing you do and everything you don’t do.” Jordan Peterson

I am beginning to understand that one of the greatest dangers to the political health of Untied States is personal apathy. When the populous gives up or gives in without a fight for their own beliefs we are doomed to the live under the effects of the radical ultra minorities (also including the most divisive executive office since Richard Nixon).
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The Complexity of Conflict

June 9, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

For good ideas and true innovation, you need human interaction, conflict, argument, and debate. Margaret Heffernan

I am, right this minute, in the middle of a very serious conflict with a major authority of another country. I am frustrated and perplexed. It consumes most of every hour (waking or sleeping) so I decided to write on it. (Sorry I can’t offer details—it would require pages.)

So, on to the complexity of conflict…
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Be Yourself: Only YOU Can Do It

May 27, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

“To be nobody-but-yourself — in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else — means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight.” E.E. Cummings

“I’m just the trying to find myself,” stands out today as the battle cry of the peace seeking hippies of the sixties and early seventies. I recall saying those very words to my sister, thirteen years my senior, on break from college at UCLA. And of course she responded with something like, “What the hell are you even talking about?”
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Truth is Often Offensive

May 12, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

In order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive. Jordan Peterson

Ben Shapiro writes, “… while manners matter, truth matters more.”

Too Sensitive

Let’s be honest, we have become (or always have been) an ultrasensitive population of people that have hard time digesting “truth” (as another sees it) without taking personal offence. I guess it has pretty much always existed in the two deeply controversial subjects of politic and religion. I believe the reason is that each of these subjects mess less with our minds that with our personal identity. We have somehow married our politics and religion to our very notion of who we are as a person.
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Learning Begins by Unlearning

May 5, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Transformation is often more about unlearning than learning, which is why the religious traditions call it “repentance.” Richard Rohr, Falling Upward

“Repentance.” Yea, that is a pretty religious word with all kinds of negative implications. But… the Greek meaning of the word is simply “to change one’s mind.” Now changing your mind is not always quite so easy. We are immersed in a “my way or the highway” culture, in which many people truly believe their way is the right way and anyone that doesn’t agree is an idiot.
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How Old Are You in Conflict?

April 14, 2018 by Charlie Hedges − 1 Comments

“Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.”    Shannon L. Alder

I was chatting the other day with my friend, Dena Crowder. We were talking about the causes of “conflict” when she told me a most enlightening quote by a therapist friend: “It’s not about what you feel in conflict; it’s more about when you feel in conflict.”

This is not “the sound of one hand clapping” Zen talk. This is about real life everyday stuff.
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