We Americans are obsessed with happiness. Dozens of books are written on it. I even took an online assessment grading my “Happiness Quotient.” I was ultra depressed when I took the little test and scored a very happy person. Weird!
A few years ago I was on a flight when the person next to me asked the normal inane question, “So, tell me, what do you do?” (Ugh!) After very briefly explaining my career at the time, she then asked, “But are you happy?”
Huh? Am I happy? First, what business is it of hers? But even more important, I’m not even sure what she wants to know. Happy. What is it?
Maybe I’m confused because I don’t think happiness is our real issue. Sure, happiness is nice, but…
Pam and I are at our annual retreat planning 2015 and how it’s going to directly impact this blog.
I think I need to make one thing clear as the New Year begins.
I love life. I love living it with gusto and freedom, but also with a deep sense of purpose. Living with purpose requires effort. Yuck! Except…it’s actually fun. It’s really fun being a “difference-maker!” But you gotta be ready to do the work.
I think you have to be a searcher for more meaning in life to read this blog. You’ll have to be a fearless searcher to implement the ideas I will put forth because the kind of change I’ll be proposing takes work and stamina and belief. But the result is worth it. You’ll be a different person. [Read more…]
There’s an old story of a Chinese man who had a successful, healthy and popular son. His neighbor once told him how fortunate he was to have such a son. The old man responded, “It will pass.” Then one day while riding his horse the son fell and broke his leg. The neighbor came to the old man and told him how sorry he was for his misfortune. The old man responded, “It will pass.”
At that time a great war arose in the kingdom and the old man’s son was not forced into the army because he had a broken leg. Once again the neighbor congratulated the old man on his good fortune, and once again the old man said… “It will pass.”
Fortune/misfortune, good/bad, better/great. Truth is: They will pass. Successes and failures come and go. That’s life. And yet, each of us has several things that are truly GREAT in our lives… if only we choose to look at it that way. [Read more…]
When life’s adventures fall apart… change your perspective.
A while ago I was visiting my son in San Antonio, Texas to watch him play baseball. Since he works 10-12 hours per day, our time to visit is limited. So in order to use up a lot of free time, I plan to make these kinds of trips Adventures.
For this one, I planned to spend most of my time developing my blog site as well as do some sight-seeing and drawing/sketching around the Alamo. In addition, I booked a reservation in an old hotel (almost 100 years old). It sounded like fun.
In his must-read book, The 4-Hour Work Week, author Tim Ferriss tells us the opposite of happiness in not sadness. It is boredom. He later goes on to equate happiness with excitement, and excitement is the heart of an Adventuresome Life.
Let’s suppose he’s right. How much of your life contains a goodly amount of excitement? Or, as for most of us, does any of your life contain excitement, except on rare occasion. I think the latter is true, but I also think that is NOT the way it should be.
I think many people might think we are kind of strange if we say we are attempting to discover excitement on a daily basis. I disagree. [Read more…]