Get inspired weekly with podcast and article updates
CTA-button-top

Silencing Your Inner Critic

July 21, 2019 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

The purpose of your Inner Critic is constant: to prevent you from taking any emotional risks or making changes in routine. Dena Crowder

Have you ever felt like whatever it is you are trying is not even worth the effort? Like you are surely going to fail? Like you will be ridiculed or even ostracized? Or, you simply feel like quitting because the intention requires too much emotional energy?

Of course you have you have felt this way. We all have.

That’s because we all have this annoying voice reminding us of our deficiencies. It is a warning voice designed to prevent the likelihood of some kind of failure. Oddly, this voice has good intentions. It’s objective is to protect you from getting hurt physically or emotionally.

Stay Alive!

The problem is that this voice is a primal one that originates all the way back to the cave days when human beings absolutely relied on its protection. It’s original goal: Stay Alive! But it appears that this once beneficial voice has become one of your greatest enemies. That’s because the reach of the voice has grown from physical survival to emotional well being.

And in doing so we now call that voice your Inner Critic. That’s because it wants you to dwell safely in a protective shell. No risk… no pain. But as we all know: no pain… no gain. Truly, the vast majority of the time your Inner Voice has morphed into a coward and tells you stories about yourself intended to encourage you to act cowardly as well.

Gutsy Courage or Cowardice

Yet today is the day of courage. The very opposite of coward. Today is the day of adventure and experimentation in your work and your play and your relationships. Your Inner Critic screams, “You are not good enough” or “ You know you’re going to fail at this” or even worse, “People will laugh heartily at your failed efforts.”

I did a podcast with Dr. Robin Moriarty, (#119: How to be Gutsy in a Controlling World), which will air late July 2019. Robin pictures her Inner Critics as characters from the Disney film, Monsters, Inc. Cute little monsters with a goal to keep her from trying anything that is new or exciting. She likes to make them cute because they are much easier to manage than the Demons that haunt people like me, and maybe you.

Dena Crowder, my personal coach, is convinced the Inner Critic is as real as you and I. It’s efforts most often prevent you from attempting your heart’s desire for fear of failure or ridicule. It wants you to be a coward, just at the times you need to be courageous.

Silencing Your Inner Critic

Dena had me do a delightfully helpful exercise. I was to write down all the words my Inner Critic was telling me these days. You know what? After only half a page of writing down my Inner Critic’s messages I quickly realized how wrong they were. And instead of making me a coward, the words of My Inner Critic actually had the entirely opposite affect and encouraged me to be even more courageous in my current endeavors.

Your Inner Critic is real. Treat it so and you can deal with it. Whenever you are tempted to quit (or reluctant to start), write down the reasons why and discover how many are initiated by your Inner Critic. Now this may sound weird but try it. “Thank” your Inner Critic for attempting to rescue you, but tell it that it is no longer needed—that you have things under control; that you are fully aware of the potential dangers ahead, but you have chosen the route of Courage in your new or current ventures!

Thank Your Inner Critic

Then Ignore Its Voice and Take the Road of Courage!

Photo courtesy of AntonioGuillem at istockphoto

#117 Jonathan Fischer: Hypnosis and the Unconscious

July 17, 2019 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Show Notes 

Our guest is Jonathan Fischer, a certified hypnotherapist, NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner, having worked in these fields working for more than 15 years now. He is the primary content creator for Mindifi Hypnosis Apps, with millions of downloads world-wide.”

Jonathan was on the show a couple months back and during that time he and I got together to hypnotize me and allow me to experience the process of diving into the suggestibility of the unconscious.

“His coaching and speaking company is called Mythic Heart Inc., a reference to his own heart history, and, his passion for the ideas of Joseph Campbell, the world renowned exert on comparative mythologies. Through his hypno-coaching and speaking, Jonathan draws upon his training and his life experiences to help people, as Campbell might put it, ‘to live their bliss, and make their life a truly heroic heroes’ journey.”

Find out more about Jonathan at https://mythicheart.com

To make an appointment call 323-741-2788

For more with Charlie Hedges please visit www.thenextchapter.life

 

Check out this episode!

Your Greatest Freedom: Choice

July 13, 2019 by Charlie Hedges − 2 Comments

“The only thing they can’t take away from me is my freedom to make choices.” Elie Wiesel

Stuck! How often do you feel stuck by your situation in life? You know, the times it feels like some controlling influence may be stuffing you into a box, convinced that is where you belong, whether you approve or not. And then how often are you your own worst enemy allowing fear of change to influence your decision to stay put in an unpleasant, disrupting or even dangerous position?
[Read more…]

#116 Terry Hershey: Fear, Anxiety and Ego

July 9, 2019 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Show Notes  

In our show today we are privileged to have our regular insightful guest Terry Hershey: prolific author, renowned public speaker, landscape architect, an mentor to several people on the Art of Slowing Down to take in the pleasure of life.

Today’s topic affects every single listener and is perhaps the systemic root of most of our personal limitations. I want to talk about our daily experience of FEAR, and how it impacts the choices we make.

In addition to bringing on severe anxiety, fear is also the source of low self-esteem, anger, resistance to new ideas, reluctance to experiment, and a general acceptance of the status quo.

I am coming to believe that Fear is one of the most influential psychological determinates of how we feel and behave.

So let’s get into it with Terry Hershey.

For more information on Terry Hershey you can visit www.terryhershey.com

For more with Charlie Hedges please visit www.thenextchapter.life

Check out this episode!

What’s the Purpose of Having a Purpose?

July 6, 2019 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“A noble purpose inspires sacrifice, stimulates innovation and encourages perseverance.” Gary Hamel

Oh, how much time I have consumed pondering the purpose of my life! It seems I am not the only one given the, probably, multi-thousands of books written on the subject.
[Read more…]