Unconditional Love, Really?

January 18, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“Unconditional love is not fully possible. We are mortal creatures of living and dying and how we love and what we love is conditional upon where we stand in the drama…” David Whyte, Consolations

If you have read recent posts, it must be obvious that David Whyte’s book, Consolations, is my daily morning inspirational reading. And boy, have I gleaned much from it. I read one chapter per day and then write in my journal. So, for that reason you find so much of my recent writing inspired by Whyte.

The Unconditional Love of God Questioned

I was deeply moved this morning by David’s writings on Unconditional Love. Finally, someone is speaking an obvious truth about the virtually untouchable Christian mantra of Unconditional Love. All one need do is read the Torah to discover that multi-thousands were killed under the direct instruction or intervention of God. And so many of them followers of God—just read the Book of Numbers. And one is forced to at least redefine the idea of Unconditional Love.
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#137 Terry Hershey: 2020 Lived Intentionally

January 14, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Show Notes 

Paul, today is my New Year’s Resolution episode, and it’s already more than two weeks late. I fear that may be sort of a projection of how my New Year’s Intentions will come to pass this year… late. In my Myers Briggs Personality Style Inventory, I fall into the class that defines “on time” as “always late.”

I’ve thought about it, I have determined that the deadlines associated with so many of our New Year’s goals really are false goals, because they are pretty much established rather arbitrarily the moment we made up our “goals.”

My guest today, our dear friend Terry Hershey who is endowed with my same personality defect, writes… “For me the word deadline simply means, “It’s time to get started.” We both believe that deadlines in truth are really just guidelines.

I know of no one better to talk about setting New Year’s resolutions than Terry Hershey. You know, I think we did the same kind of show last year and as I recall… we totally poo-pooed the notion of New Year’s resolutions.

Well… enter a new year… and… a new decade, and… I feel differently. I believe that the New Year and the New Decade provides a grand opportunity for reflection on the past and a promising introduction to the future. Only, for me, I have altered the term from “goals” to “intentions”—I like the word “intentions” because it feels a bit softer for those of us with the deadline vs guideline malady.

So today Terry and I will explore what an Intentionally Lived 2020 might consist of.

Before I bring on Terry I want to quote one of my favorites, Seth Godin who recently wrote: “For most of us, 2020 is going to be a turning point. Because it’s another chance to live tomorrow over again. A chance to reset, to decide what’s important and what’s worth working for.” To me, all of us in America would benefit by taking a moment “reset and decide what is important and what is worth working for…”

For more information on Terry Hershey you can visit www.terryhershey.com

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Living in “The Now,” Misunderstood

January 11, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

“…the guru’s urge to live only in the now misunderstands the multilayered inheritance of existence, where all epochs live and breathe in parallels.” David Whyte, Consolations

When grand new ideas for living a life of meaning arise, I am frequently impressed by the simple wisdom suggested. Such was the power of mindfulness and living in the now.
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#136 Dena Crowder: Inner Power Craves Purpose

January 8, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 0 Comments

Show Notes 

Today I am excited to have with us once again my personal life coach, Dena Crowder. Dena is amazing! After working together for two years now, I can’t think of anyone that has impacted my life the ways Dena Crowder has. Her wisdom and insight equals that of sages.

Now… the last time Dena was on the show we talked about dealing with our Inner Critic. Well, today we are taking the opposite direction and talking about our Inner Power and how our Inner Power Craves Purpose. I can’t wait to get into the subject. In fact, it was the topic of our last enormously impactful coaching session. I have so much to learn from Dena.

For those of you that don’t know, Dena Crowder is a High-Performance Strategist and Chief Spiritual Officer for creators and leaders. She has designed innovative programs for prison parolees, judges associations, CEOs, CNN heroes, Emmy and Grammy winners, as well as executives at many organizations the likes of which include Nike, Disney, Nestle, and Fox.

In addition, most recently Dena had the rare honor to give a presentation at a TED X conference that was highly received with a standing ovation. Her topic, naturally, was on Power.

In fact, Dena is on a mission to revolutionize the way the world understands and relates to Power. Her aim is to Redefine Power so that we use it for good. Dena believes—and I love this—that “Pure Power” is the capacity to directly influence and manage your life… with wisdom and compassion. If only… it’s all about “Power To” and not “Power Over.”

You can reach Dena at www.denacrowder.com

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What It Takes to Find Oneself

January 4, 2020 by Charlie Hedges − 4 Comments

“No one can build you the bridge on which you, and only you, must cross the river of life.” Frederick Nietzsche

“Finding yourself” harkens me back to my agenda as a hippie in the late 1960’s at UCLA. Deep and confusing was the journey as so many different proponents of personal and social change became prominent: Abbe Hoffman, Che Guevara, Eric Fromm, and Alan Watts all suggested methodologies for “finding yourself” by different means, from revolution and protests to love and meditation.
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